You hit a lot of great truths here, but "status limbo" can still affect those that are not looking for outward symbols or validation of "status".
Limbo implies a conflict of over/under, and someone may be having an internal conflict:
- Should I donate more?
- I like to drive a car that is comfortable, will people think of me different if I buy a sports car because I want to drive a nice car?
- Should I pay for this dinner for friends because I like them and I can afford to, does that change our relationship dynamic negatively? Am I stingy if I don't?
These things could be in service of outward validation, but even if they aren't, because they are actions that end up happening in the world others can see them, which affects status.
The equilibrium I posit is as such: There are three sides to a triangle:
- Who you are
- Who you think you are
- Who others think you are
When all of those things are aligned and you are in the "center" you've reached equilibrium.