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TL;DR Incels over estimate how much attractiveness and money matters and it might be nice to educate them

Also: https://slatestarcodex.com/2014/08/31/radicalizing-the-roman...

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Overestimate compared to what? Compared to women's self reported preferences?

I ma going to read the study to find out :D

Overestimating how much attractiveness matters to the answers people give in surveys or overestimating how much attractiveness matters factors in to behavior on dating apps?

When you're on dating apps, you're competing with million of other men. Before dating apps, you're competing with maybe only a pool of a few hundred.

Also, your dating profile is completely impersonal. It list your hobbies, your like, dislike, etc. All these pale in comparison to just meeting people in person and maybe making social connections.

That's kind of my point. Dating apps are A) how the majority of people meet these days and B) are explicitly geared towards making people filter partners by attractiveness above all other qualities.

Ergo I think A) incels are partly or mostly a creation of the way swipe based dating apps has changed mate selection behavior and B) efforts by psychologists to emphasize that looks don't matter to women as much as incels think they do based upon surveys are badly missing the point.

There are so many studies^H^H^H^H surveys on the internet today that everyone can cite something to justify their beliefs.

You've just summarized the abstract, which summarizes the entire article and barely exceeds a few sentences.

I wonder what the next level of that is called (or even this level, no idea what a summary of an abstract of a summary is)

Executive Summary

You are thinking of the highly regarded tl;dr

“Incels (and non-incel single men) significantly overestimated the importance of physical attractiveness and financial prospects to women, and underestimated the importance of intelligence, kindness, and humor.” Sounds like single men, incel or not, share the same feelings.

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