If 90% of people exhibit some characteristics of the autism spectrum, shouldn't we start to consider the people with none as the ones worthy of a label? Like people with true pitch. We give them a label, not people with less than perfect pitch.
Perhaps pedantry is like true pitch or "perfect" vision. It's actually a good thing. Even if it annoys people who don't have it. I wonder if people with true pitch go through life cringing on the inside every time they hear a wrong note. But they learn to never let on that they notice.
Perhaps the part of pedantry that puts a person on the autism spectrum is not so much the noticing as it is the voicing--the seeming inability to control the expression and calling out a correction instead of just letting it slide.