I’ve been checked many many times. If not it would be very easy to commit fraud
But in most countries they don't require ID in order to make a credit card purchase.
It would be nice if card issuers avoided deadnaming, but there could be an innocent explanation for why a card was issued with the wrong name.
Speaking of chip and PIN, before tap to pay became prominent, people actually never touched my card, I would insert it myself (reducing risk of fraud) enter my PIN and all the merchant cared about was whether the the machine said “approved” or “declined” after doing an online check.