It helps to have a reason to get together. At a certain point early in life, I think most people adopt a "no agenda, no attenda" attitude towards socializing.
It helps to have a reason to get together. At a certain point early in life, I think most people adopt a "no agenda, no attenda" attitude towards socializing.
As the proverbial people-networking advice goes, "What is the person whose time I'm asking for getting out of meeting? And what can I give them? And how can I make that a win/win?"
Folks have an aversion to spending limited time to show up and hope something happens. Better to make the something explicit.
That might be fun, catching up, sexual attraction, familial obligation, or religious duty... but it's something.
Better to be intentional and up-front when asking others, rather than expecting a reason to materialize out of the ether (and them to agree to spend the time without knowing it).