Not a comment on that parent comment per se (didn't read it as it's flagged), but in PL "intimidating" has much more negative connotations which makes the word a tad hard to translate (e.g. intimidating → zastraszający == "trying to scare sm/sb"). Things like this might slip if EN is not your first language.
> Assuming a negative intention on a message of seemingly good will should be a moment for you to pause and consider why you think that way, instead of conjuring up post-hoc reasoning to decipher a hidden hate message.
As a kid living in a German speaking country I had to deal with racism fairly regularly. I moved to the UK in my early 20s. I still remember the feeling of dread when I saw a nail salon asking for a premium for "nails (with polish)". I obviously knew what that meant, but for a split second I was pissed xd