How much was sent to Ukraine in cash, exactly? And how much of that was taken away from housing budgets?

From what I heard, the vast majority of what was sent to Ukraine was military surplus.

(That's of course ignoring some pretty serious points you're making more or less implicitly, eg that Americans are suffering in a way comparable to "being shelled by Russians" or that the help is send to encourage their "being crooked" and not, you know, fight back against invading Russians. And you're also basically brushing off the part where the help came in with strings attached in terms of fighting corruption.)