> But I'm both cases XMPP is still around, if you care for it.
great: then DM me at xmpp:colin@uninsane.org and lets talk more.
if this were 2008, your browser would render that as a link and clicking it would put us in direct contact, because likely than not you'd have an account somewhere. all i want is for that experience again.
but chances are you don't have an XMPP setup anymore, in which case my invitation above is useless. the specific protocol (XMPP, Matrix, Activity Pub ..) is less relevant to this: it's the social experience (and norms) which matters.
today, Activity Pub is growing back into those shoes which XMPP used to occupy. i can drop my handle at the end of a tech-related blog and people do take up the invitation. this year, (ex-)coworkers and IRL friends are actually using it. give it a decade, and maybe that invitation would be familiar even to my parents. 10 years sounds long, until you consider that's about as long as we've been without such a thing already.
and so it's like this: 1) how much credence do you put on that hypothetical future? 2) how much of a risk does FB pose to it? because if you believe we're on a good path, and that FB has even a 20% risk of derailing us from that path, then why risk it?