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> “He believed he was in a relationship with the model. He sent her money to buy dresses and encouraged her to continue posting photos. I don’t know if they’re still together,” she jokes.

Emotionally manipulating someone to send money. Hilarious. I just can't stop laughing.

OnlyFans is an abusive platform. It's not "just" nodes and porn, it sells "connections", except they're not really connections at all, and then abuses that to make money. It's just like the old "form a connection, then ask for money"-scam that's been around for ages.

See my write-up of a few years ago: https://tildes.net/~tech/y52/onlyfans_will_prohibit_content_...

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There is a parallel issue in the world of sugar relationships. I know a few "sugar daddies," and one common theme for all of them is the number of "sugar babies" who lead them on and emotionally manipulate them. It's sad that the SDs fall for it, and it's cruel and pathetic that the SBs do it. It's common enough that there's a sort of meme in the gay twink community about it, even.

Yeah I do too, and they related similar experiences. The SB's typically have 3-4 men on the go at any one time.

The sugar baby/sugar daddy dynamic is entirely transactional. Why would the older person think the younger person is actually attracted to them?

You’d be surprised at how many younger people there are who are legitimately attracted to older people. Aside from that, the “purely transactional” nature of these relationships is more nuanced than you suggest.

Real SDs fuck. Anything else and you’re a simp/chump/sucker. Crass but true.

It's not always about sex. One of my friends just wants companionship from younger people. In many ways, the "daddies" like him are the most victimized by these fraud "babies". It's sad, and I just wish he had a more healthy sense of his own self-worth. It's a lot like the stereotypical attractive girl always going after the "bad guy" and wondering why their love life is a constant shitshow.

They are selling exactly the connection the user is buying. A virtual service is being sold and a recipient is using it. This is not the same level tricking someone to give you money on the internet with a sob email. This is a legitimate business transaction for all parties involved.

Except it's not a real connection. Except it's some guy in the Philippines and it's literally lying through their teeth about who you're forming your "connection" with. Except many regular people spend huge amount of money they wouldn't otherwise spend.

It's the exploitation of (mostly male) loneliness.

"Its not a real connection" - and if its not, so what? Why we should decide what connection is real and what is not? Why its matter?

I mean, why we should decide for someone who use it? What wrong with allowing it?

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