> We don't know how the US military would've reacted if Iran Air 655 would've overflown restricted airspace above the US.
We have to deal with the facts and reality as it exists, not as it "could have been" in a reality that does not exist.
And in the reality that exists, the US acted with infinite more grace and compassion than the Soviet Union. They found the wrecking and kept it a secret for years. I find it extremely unlikely the US would do anything like that in any circumstances even remotely similar.
> is that worse than the US fucking up by being so close (arguably intruding) another country space
It's not so much about that they messed up, but how they dealt with it. Do you accept responsibility and take action to prevent it in the future, or do you lie and cheat and do everything you can to weasel your way out of responsibility?