Would you be open to illustrating in general terms what your situation is like?
I had a poor background but I had grants so I did have access to education but I was bad at it eg. failed. I was lucky to pick up web development to try and get rich from high traffic ads. That did not happen. I worked in factories/restaurants and did some freelancing. I landed my first W2 agency job at $40K/yr then $50K/yr. I climbed the ladder, SWE contractor job $84K/yr then a failed startup thing, $110K after that. I then quit my job since I didn't want to learn C#/.NET (dumb). Was hard to get a job for a couple months, about to go work in Amazon Warehouse till another local agency picked me up for $75K/yr where I'm at now.
All the while I've been either burning money (eg. POS car repair, or expensive toys) or helping my families (last 3 years) I think I gave them $60K+ in total. Current net worth is -$80K.
Anyway I have been very fortunate/lucky I'm just dumb.
I hate my job at the moment so I'm either going to get another job or get fired... repeat the debt implode cycle again.
Unfortunately it's often seen as easier to change the former than the latter (which seems to perhaps be developed throughout childhood and one's upbringing and former experiences), but I would perhaps try to brainstorm if you can ways to improve your own subjective perspective/lens itself. If you quit your prior job, and with your new one hate and want to quit it/think your discomfort for it'll get you fired, maybe you could try to reach out to those around you in your peer network (maybe a former dev coworker or boss or a current coworker and try to get their perspective on things). Maybe there's something with your own ability to tolerate discomfort or find solace in good aspects of your jobs that you could find.
My ideal job I'm not qualified for unless I do it as a hobby eg. robotics. So I will free myself financially eventually and then do that for fun.
And I will continue to help my families since they're in a worse situation than me. Hopefully I remember being poor. I used to dream of having a Lamborghini Aventador but now I realize that money could buy me a house with land somewhere.
I just got myself fired from my job lol. I guess my opinion on bad company practice went too far.
Well I will see how I adapt to this situation. I could have quit but idk... I wanted that layoff effect where "it wasn't my choice" but I'm just a coward I guess.
its amazing how some people will just ship "expensive hobbies" in the list of "why do I have no money" explanations.