The best encouragement I have for this thought trap is to not put your career on a pedestal, and instead find the things you truly want to progress in or enjoy and focus on those.

In my case, despite being a programmer, I am a creative type. I have found that I routinely need:

- 1-2 hours per week playing an instrument or writing

- A date with my wife that is scheduled like a meeting that I cannot ignore or cancel

- A secondary (or 3rd or 4th) project outside of work, where there is a clear goal and progress is measurable (indie game dev for me)