I'm also sensitive to loud noises and I hate it when someone rev's their engine or blasts the full bass stereo in my neighborhood. So, I get what you're saying.
However, back in the day I had a Mercury Cougar and I loved the sound of that thing. The growl it made without even pressing the gas was oddly satisfying. I can understand the appeal of loud bikes and cars even though I don't appreciate when they overdo it.
It could be the roar, but EVs are much better at giving you the feeling of being pushed into your seat than ICE cars.
For cars it's part of the experience, not to mention that traditionally the roar level translated to performance.
it's a multi-sensory experience, like "ohm", you feel it as much as you hear it, you're made one with the machine, its power an extension of yours. it's fun, try it sometime.