I'm going to assume organize yourself to do everything means that you a) know what to do and b) are having trouble keeping track of all of the things you need to do, have done, and want to do.

I generally break it down into - [ongoing] text file with all of the todos

- [daily] categorize added todos since the last day

- [daily] calendar things into when I have agreed with myself that I'll work on $project

- [weekly] if I find myself doing repetitive tasks, then I do a recurring calendar item with the specifics

So I only need a calendar of choice (google calendar for me), text file (apple notes/reminders), email (superhuman for delayed email functionality).

For me, I generally want to: a) put out new content once a week

b) create emails

c) answer calls

d) build tech

All of that sounds recurring other than c), so I first time box a daily time limit each day and slowly start figuring out what goes in where.

It changes as things progress (lots of tech needs to be built, content creation for a week I"m on vacation, etc)...

Happy to chat (my info in the profile). I've done the 9:5 + side project as well as stay-at-home parent + side project + a mix and can share more of what has worked for me.