For C/C++ projects that use meson as the build system, there is an excellent way to manage (some, supported) dependencies:
https://mesonbuild.com/Wrapdb-projects.html
https://mesonbuild.com/Wrap-dependency-system-manual.html
meson will download and build the libraries automatically and give you a variable which you pass as a regular dependency into the built target:
https://github.com/qemu/qemu/tree/005ad32358f12fe9313a4a0191...
https://github.com/harfbuzz/harfbuzz/tree/main/subprojects
https://github.com/harfbuzz/harfbuzz/blob/37457412b3212463c5...
Or, if you're using proper operating systems, they're managed by the usual package manager, just like everything else.