Bad parenting or neglectful often produces bad outcomes does it not?
This is unfortunate to read. Of course everything doesn’t need to be planned, but food and shelter are the bare minimum.
This is unfortunate to read. Of course everything doesn’t need to be planned, but food and shelter are the bare minimum.
For those that want to dive in a little bit these are Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE). It's not an end all be all chance that you'll develop something with a long term impact but the more you experience the more likely you are to do so.
https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/aces/riskprotectivefa...
Lil Timmy falls down a well, or has a really handsy neighbour, or has to see someone get hit by a car.
Like, obviously, don't beat your kids, but you don't need to be superlative parent, esp. since a great deal of their education and raising will happen, essentially, in someone elses workplace (i.e. school).
Maybe they won’t be an A student when they reach school but does it actually matter?
There’s kids who literally survived the Holocaust in Nazi Germany and lived very successful lives after.
That said there is a natural instinct to be a decent parent. You don’t really have to try or be ready to. Just need to be around. In my opinion it’s similar to the instinct to turn off a burning stove - a bunch of common sense stuff that requires zero planning.
Are they becoming a happy person? good, moral person? Do they contribute to society or are they a drain on society? Do you, the parent, have to bail them out of jail every other weekend?
Don't neglect your kids, people. Please.
The unfortunate reality is that this groundwork is laid from around 0-10. After that it's a lot harder to correct the mistakes and the influence then definitely falls much more under peers than the parents.