As someone with aphantasia, they don't help me memorize relationships, so to get them into my working memory, I have to translate a diagram into bullet points: it's so much easier just to start with those bullet points of what components we've got, what they consist of and what relationships they have (you know, just like code itself).
And having done theoretical (read: abstract) maths too, that's good enough for me to work with complex and intricate relationships.
I still understand that it's not like that for most everybody else, but for some minority of us, they are just a bad way to write text/thoughts out as the graphical layout has no benefits. Yes, you do learn to read and create them, but it's an extra effort that you do for others' benefit.