Negotiating what you spend your executive function on is part of navigating reality. People can exercise agency here.
You can say "no" to most of these tasks and there will be zero effect. Most of the time people don't actually care that much about these tasks getting done, they're just nice-to-haves.
I also disagree with the framing of it in the workplace and relationships.
"EFT" is literally the purpose of a job. You take on the burden of your role so someone else doesn't have to.
If a couple is happy with the division of labour, why does it matter who does more "EFT" tasks?
Gendered or other differences in "EFT" tasks seem like a completely different problem. That is related to your personal negotiation of the tasks rather than an inherent problem with them.
Personally I try to ruthlessly eliminate these tasks because I have poor executive function and don't want more things to deal with, but most people don't seem to be interested in doing that.