Startups, money, reputation; all that shit is worthless once you need to deal with the pain of someone dying.
Someone taking their own life is one of those things that should cause you to stop and think of his family, friends and wonder what pushed him to this.
I dunno man, maybe you haven't experienced it, but once you do (and everyone does), I hope you forgive yourself for the stupid shit you said today.
All I said was, if you've never had someone close to you end their life or die suddenly, then you don't get what pain you cause by flippant remarks like he made.
So fuck him for feeling bad, cause he should. And you relax dude.
"... I hope you forgive yourself for the stupid shit you said today."
He's asking for your forgiveness, and based on what you're saying, it sounds like you won't forgive him, and you feel that he shouldn't forgive himself. I'm saying, that's a bad mindset to have. That same kind of hatred has spawned many wars, for example.
I understand you're emotional about this, and I'm sorry for whatever losses you've experienced. But try to restrain yourself, act rationally, and communicate clearly.
But at the same time, I look back on some of the stupid things I've said and done, and it bothers me again and again. I'll be working on something completely non-related, and some scene of my stupidity pops into my head, and I feel embarrassed all over again. It's not particularly useful, and I would just as soon forget it altogether.
That's how I took the comment about forgiving himself later: he may come to regret making a callous remark, and have a hard time understanding that it was a simple off-the-cuff remark.
Either way, it's not such a big deal. He apologized, took responsibility, and will probably attempt to post with a bit more foresight in the near future.
All of the vitriolic outcry against something that was insightful but misguided (and badly worded) is just a little staggering to be frank.
Hehe, sorry. I think it would be beneficial if we all loosened up a little. Personally, if I was going to do the suicide dance, I'd try to find the most creative way to go. Like the one where you put on a noose made out of thin (but sturdy) wire, attach the other end to a bridge, glue your hands to your face, then jump off the bridge. You'll end up holding your own head, which would really confuse whoever found you. I'd also make the ":P" face before jumping so that it looked like I was blowing a raspberry.
Abstain :(
Morra di!
He he heee..