Most folks would agree with you that we can use what we like but that isn't the reason for the vitriol. I think most of the vitriol comes from the way the it is presented as "the winner" when a lot of people either actively dislike it or would never chose to use it.
I dislike Tailwind and would never choose it so seeing it presented as if it climbed to the top of some pile makes me laugh out loud and based on the comments there are a fair few people that agree. That said, use what works for you and I won't try to claim my choices as "winners" in some undeclared contest.