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Nah, it's better to forget about all that, and live as if you're immortal. Self-deception rules!

there is that old joke about someone complaining that his old friends didn't keep in touch only to show up at that persons funeral.

with that in mind, i think showing that someone is being missed is a sign of care, and with older people worrying that they might have passed away is just part of that.

just saying, would have worded it differently, that's all

"Even death is not to be feared by one who has lived wisely." -- Buddha

i mean, it's fine if you believe that to get through the day but in my experience death has never been a desirable or peaceful thing no matter how wise the person was. i had to watch a very good friend die once who never had a shred of resentment, malice, only wanted what's best for everyone. in the end I gotta tell ya, it wasn't pretty, and I'm pretty sure he'd rather not had been dying. he was 74.

It’s a good reminder.