I think it's being used endearingly, regardless of the person's gender.
I see your point though and can understand how it may make you feel as a transwoman.
How might one achieve the same effect with different phrasing?
I see your point though and can understand how it may make you feel as a transwoman.
How might one achieve the same effect with different phrasing?
To answer your question, I would (did, hihi) drop the 'man'. If you want to remain 'folksy', you could say 'my friend, ...'.
Finally, I agree that it was used endearingly - that's why my comment was pretty milquetoast :)
I recognize I'm asking you to do something 'extra'. I really appreciate it!
Might be a regional thing but "my friend" sounds very condescending / patronising to me! I'd personally feel quite upset if somebody began a critique of my behaviour with that.
I guess "buddy" or "mate" might work though!