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> Me as "dad" at home with the kids, me as "husband" with my wife after the kids go to bed, and me as "employee" at work are very different roles. I use different language, have different goals, different tone, different energy level.

FYI this type of code-switching is not universally present for everyone though it may be for you. Some people are their "authentic" selves the majority of the time. It is often suboptimal to be that way though.

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> FYI this type of code-switching is not universally present for everyone though it may be for you.

There's a difference between overt code-switching like people do when among members of their own race versus others compared to the more basic "I don't tell dirty jokes around grandma but I do around my bros."

> Some people are their "authentic" selves the majority of the time.

I don't think of any of these roles are inauthentic. People contain multitudes.

You're right that some people deliberately collapse their roles and behave mostly the same across all contexts. I think it's usually done as a sort of power play to show that they don't have to behave differently to suit others around them. Trump is a good example.

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