They get a notification if they have chosen to receive notifications. It's not like the sender forces themselves upon someone else.
And just the same, Japanese people are not one unified blob and each have their own preferences regarding texting, just like the rest of us.
It's about defaults and majority/average preferences, not about "every single one does this" and it gets tiring to remind people otherwise, as if they don't know.
So even if there was such a thing as default, we wouldn't know it. Let alone from a foreign country that most natives don't speak a foreign language. How many Japanese relationships did you have to form such knowledge on the majority?
Last, but not least, it is not tiring to remind people to reframe the conversation. It is healthy and constructive.
But, I will say that to a greater degree than you perhaps would imagine, Japanese people by and large do know what to expect from other Japanese in minute contextual detail. And with that knowledge, they try very hard to meet others' expectations.
What matters for the analogy to be useful is if there are two big clusters in east and west. Not regional differences within the clusters, or between individuals.
What if they don't want to stop notifications?
What if they don't know how to do it?
What if they want to still get one from the child or partner or friend who's travelling if anything happens to them?
Should they turn it on and off for your convenience, lest you have to forego sending a non-essential text at night?
The receiver has full agency of when they receive notifications and of whom. In fact a person NOT sending a message and keeping it stored later is, in fact, taking away agency of the receiver. The sender assumes he knows better then the receivers.
But you're still sending the message, regardless of if they want it or not, and even if obviously they might not have done those things, not know how to do those things, or simply not want to have to do those things, but still not want to have to get some message at night.
Sorry, but you're intruding with your late nightn message. And that's irrelevant to what they have or haven't set on their phone.
>In fact a person NOT sending a message and keeping it stored later is, in fact, taking away agency of the receiver. The sender assumes he knows better then the receivers.
It's not about agency, it's about courtesy.
if they don't know how, the first time they bring up this issue, i'll help them change their settings.
yes, there are always corner cases, and there may be a situation where it is necessary to avoid sending messages at certain times. but this can be communicated. what bothers me is people getting upset if they receive a message at the wrong time as if it was the senders fault.