This guy sounds insufferable.
First thing he says to his “coachee” is along the lines of “if I said what you just said to me, how would you feel!”
How about you just say what you think, instead of making her guess what you’re saying
First thing he says to his “coachee” is along the lines of “if I said what you just said to me, how would you feel!”
How about you just say what you think, instead of making her guess what you’re saying
I remember telling a therapist about various negative thoughts I'd had towards myself, and she said "Now imagine that a friend told you all those things. How would you respond?". The sudden shift in perspective from that simple question was huge. I went from "I'm clearly hopeless" to "Perhaps I do have worth".
Ontop of that, it's a powerful thing to encourage someone to do the work themselves rather than doing it for them. Similar to how people often learn mathematics better by solving problems than by reading textbooks.
A concrete example often occurs in sports. The one in the game misses all sorts of really obvious things that those watching clearly see.
I think how one accomplishes this in the moment is personal. If I'm sitting at my desk, I'll physically push my chair back and sit up a bit. In person I'll take a small step back probably unnoticed by whoever I'm talking to. Just small triggers to remind me to detach from moment and try and view it more objectively.