Three general thoughts.

As a honkytonk sound guy I love good electric kits, but I have subs. They work great, though perhaps I'm just running into the really good kits.

I know a pro drummer who gave himself tendonitis from the rubber head kits, and having owned an octapad and similar triggers, I don't think I'd want to own anything that isn't a mesh headed kit.

I live in an apartment and have thought about getting one so I can rehearse a band in headphones, but they can often be quite loud just hitting em and they transmit noise through the structure. I don't think my downstairs neighbors would be okay with it; I don't enjoy it when their kiddos sometimes slam kitchen cabinets. So if that is your motivation, you might be careful about that.

I bought one of the Alesis kits (the Nitro Mesh kit I believe its called) this Christmas (guess why) since some of my drum friends (I'm a bassist) had positive things to say about them. They've been a riot so far, the hardware quality is plenty good for a bunch of hacks banging around on them, lots of good samples in the controller. I have played some of the really cheap Simmons branded ones, which were also a lot of fun but these are more fun for not much more money.

I think alesis can be found used for $200ish, roland vdrum is usually 500 to 900.

I think most people prefer mesh rather than rubber, but with a bit of luck and patience you can find a good budget used kit.