> Front end devs will add the videoRating field and have no idea that this comes from a separate API and causes the response time to double.
That's absolutely wonderful problem for the backend and db teams to detect and solve. Cache it, use another data structure, pre-calculate, build cunning indexes, if you can't do anything just throw hands in the air and say it cannot be done. Neither frontend team nor the client does care about backend woes. And frontend team doesn't want to be kept in the game of telephone as backend negotiates solutions for performance with the client.
That's what GraphQL does. Provides better separation of responsibilities between the teams and lowers the amount of conflicts and delays because of the reduction of verbal communication necessary.
> Developing some gragantuan do-it-all meta API as a sandbox for frontend engineers is a terrible idea.
It's not a sandbox for developers. It's for the clients. I know it's painful for the backend developers that front end doesn't want to be involved in challenges to the backend caused by customer's requests and how often they change. GraphQL makes those problems owned by backend devs and noone else.
> I really favor collaboration on purpose built APIs than gargantuan do-it-all systems.
Same as with the software itself, well separated parts, clear non-overlapping responsibilities, small, well defind interfaces between the parts result in better outcomes.