To your points:
1. I find GraphQL to be fantastic for security, primarily because all calls are strongly typed, so you can ensure by the time a request gets to your resolver it is guaranteed to match the defined input types. Furthermore, I always make heavy use of custom scalar types instead of String, which allows me to get rid of a whole host of potential security issues by limiting potential injection attacks before my code even sees it. As far as ensuring object ownership/permissions, this is trivially easy, or in any case just as easy as with REST.
2. Versioning is one of GraphQL's greatest strengths. The tooling makes it easy to deprecate some fields while adding replacement ones in a way that guarantees backwards compatibility. Far from "good luck figuring out what is used", the tooling e.g. in Apollo makes it very easy to see which clients are making use of which fields. Furthermore, if you do need to "hard version" a new endpoint, you can do it similarly to REST by including a version parameter in your URL (e.g. /v1/myGraphQLEndpoint).
3. Regarding qos, this again just gets to my original point about having well defined queries and mutations. Your queries don't need to say "allow me to see the world" any more than any other API framework. It's not hard to just have queries that only say "give me X by ID" and also a single bulk retrieval endpoint where you define the boundaries of what you want to return.
If anything, I think perhaps a lot of misconceptions around the problems of GraphQL have to do with these tools that basically say "expose my whole DB with GraphQL", which in my experience usually leads to tears in the end.
But starting with a thoughtful definition of your API surface area with GraphQL's type definition language can make it a joy to use and provides lots of benefits over a straight RESTful interface.