> So let me see if I understand this thread.

You realise you've been arguing with multiple people expressing multiple opinions, right? You appear to be prone to binary thinking, so it might not be clear to you that your opponents don't form a single monolith.

> tl;dr if you're not offended by 4chan they're not actually saying anything offensive about you even though it might appear so superficially; 4chan just has a different list of things you can't say.

I'm not offended by the things 4chan users say because I don't visit 4chan. You should try it yourself. Getting so upset by words you disagree with on one forum that you feel the need to froth at the mouth about it on another forum doesn't seem healthy.