Not quite outside of work but separate from my clients and employers. I have found it at my Coworking space.
Sadly, in my experience, few Coworking spaces provide the things good communities provide.
I recommend trying all the Coworking spaces near you until you find the one that feels right.
Like good coffee shops, it’s usually the ones that aren’t part of a chain that are best. High-end interior design, flashy marketing and all the amenities you can imagine aren’t the things that matter.