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No it doesn't.

The American dream has always been about bringing the family unit up with you as you ascend, because for most of this nation's history, it was impossible to achieve any real success without the help of family members around the home.

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That was correct once - but now living with your family is an extremely rare decision. The "cool" thing to do is to move out when you're 18 and occasionally visit your family before moving them into a snazzy retirement home. Co-living is hardly ever portrayed in pop-culture outside of immigrant families where it's usually played up for laughs.

As a gay person that will probably not end up having a traditional 'family unit' in my lifetime, I question whether or not the family is enough to stave off lonliness. I see a lot of nuclear families that spend what I think is a toxic amount of time with each other. To be able to thrive we need to be a part of a larger community, not just codependent on a spouse. Even worse is when I see people hanging all of their hopes and happiness on a child. When a mother says that their child is their best friend, I don't know if I should worry more for the mother or the child.

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