I have crossed the MX/US border many times and it's more annoying flying but when driving across I've never even spoken to the MX side either direction and the only thing I've ever been asked on the US side (after passport) do you have any meat or cheese or eggs etc. They seem to get really exercised by a couple of eggs.
Come to think of it I've never had much interaction on the EU/GB/RO/Egypt side either.
The Israelis made my daughter's life hell on departure when traveling with her academically famous and friend of Israel grandfather, so she's quite ferociously negative about ever returning there.
The most annoying so far has been flying back to the US. Kinda faschy a couple of times, mainly concerned with (allowed) food items. 20 yo assholes making you wait for the ok.
We got Global Entry a few years ago and it's a little nerve wracking the first time (did I get everything right?) but it really does cut out a lot of the stress after that. Global Entry and driving across the MX border is often a 5 min process, including the line!
If I was worried about my devices I would encrypt a hard drive and mail it to someplace near the arrival/destination spot. Then carry a bare bones base install over the border loaded with some innocuous stuff. As it is I haul a USB drive with a fully encrypted zfs pool that has innocuously named datasets over borders these days. I am happily no problem at all sure take it thanks. I can go now?
Doesn't solve the steadily cutting digits off the travel mate problem but not much to do in that circumstance anyway.
I sure wish you would travel. US cities have really gotten uninteresting compared to a lot of places in the world. I'd rather go to CDMX than NYC, for instance. Listen to your wife, she's right.
adding... I don't have any social media accounts at all. I have a gmail address, and a couple of migadu domains and that's it. Nobody has ever cared about anything IT ever. Whoops I forgot! I comment occasionally on HN hahaha.