You need to look at ratios. WW2 was such an unimaginably large scale war, that anecdotes don't really tell you anything. In WW2 the Allies lost 16,000,000 military and 45,000,000 civilians. The Axis powers lost 8,000,000 military and 4,000,000 civilians. Comparing this to e.g. Iraq is difficult due to a lack of reliable source of casualties, so we'll have to ballpark it. Leaked US figures (Iraq War documents) claim we killed 45,000 enemies, which is going to be a heavy overestimate. Civilian deaths in Iraq range from 110,000 to 1,0333,000. I'll pick a meet in the middle of 500,000. Using those figures we can measure this objectively:
Civilians deaths per combatant death:
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WW2 Allied Forces = 2.8
WW2 Axis Powers = 0.5
Iraq War Iraqis = 12.7
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Modern wars are smaller in scale (for now), but much worse on civilians as a ratio where they do happen. The reason is because of the nature of wars we get into. We invade countries which cannot competently defend themselves, and so it immediately transforms into an asymmetric Guerilla style defense against an occupying force. And in these scenarios its impossible for the invader to know who is an enemy and who is a civilian, so civilians suffer just terribly and over very long periods of time.
The final drone strike of Afghanistan [1] is quite a symbolic one that will certainly go down in history. The US military initially claimed they killed a group of Islamic State forces planning an attack on US forces, after observing an ISIS militant placing explosives in his trunk. In reality they killed 1 man, 2 adult members of his family, and 7 children from the local neighborhood (who ran out after he honked his horn when getting home). Those "explosives" were bottles of water, and the "ISIS militant" was a longterm humanitarian aid worker, who was working for a US NGO and applying for a US visa. If not for the excessive media attention on the final strike of the war, that would likely have just been marked up as another successful strike, with some unfortunate collateral damage. And that was one day in a 20 year occupation.
[1] - https://apnews.com/article/afghanistan-kabul-taliban-strikes...