Falcon 9 Block 5 is literally the most reliable rocket of humanity as of today (the longest streak of successful launches ever), and on the top of it, partially reusable and fairly cheap to launch. It took several explosions (that you seem to consider "sloppy") to get there, but the result exceeds anything that competition came up with.
There is an adage that people who love sausages shouldn't visit the meat plants where these are made. This is harder to do with the development process that SpaceX uses, given that it is all over the news and you can't easily escape the sight. But please do not confuse the development process with the end product.
As of now, Starship is in the not-even-beta phase. Its current problems have no relation to how the mature rocket will perform.
Note that, unlike other vendors, SpaceX didn't dare to launch human crew with their Falcon 9 until they were very sure that the rocket performs well and has a very good launch record. Compare this attitude to many other human-rated vehicles that actually killed astronauts. Nothing sloppy or rushed there.