Could not agree more. Self-hypnosis and can do rhetoric is a real poison when it comes to mental health. Its also very comon though, as humans can not really percieve mentally different people. We percieve other as flat copies with mirror neurons. So every person somebody else sees, is always "similar to me".
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mirror_neuron
If that does not work out, the brain evaluates the persons actions result. If its nothing we regard as valuable, we classify the person as "stupid/lazy/etc", if it has good outcomes, we classify the person as "brilliant/genius/etc".
This inability to even percieve the other and the behaviour they are locked in eliminates alot of the possibilities for help. "I would never do that, unless im lazy. I would think really hard and snap out of it." is way to often the conclusion.