The fact that people on Internet forums can be smug is entirely independent to whether or not following the CICO principle is effective.
In other words, when you say "CICO doesn't actually help people perform the calorie deficit part" that's observably false. We can observe that tracking calories has helped a non-zero number of people achieve calorie deficit.
I think what's more important for anyone looking to lose weight is understanding that most people will at some point gain that weight back. To me, it's important for people on the quest to lose weight to understand that gaining weight back isn't a a personal failure, it's expected and statistically likely. The only failure you can make is not trying again.
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