What would the online dating scene look like if apps let people filter by:
* race / ethnicity / religion
* weight / body type / body measurements
* height
* income / salary / net worth / debt
* race / ethnicity / religion
* weight / body type / body measurements
* height
* income / salary / net worth / debt
The problem with spreadsheet-style filtering of humans is that in the real world that's not how you fall in love with someone. Someone can be too short, too chubby, of the "wrong" religion or political affiliation, but you still fall in love with them because of their energy, their warmth, their selflessness, their consistency, their presence and so on.
In theory more knobs = more better, but in practice I suspect it backfires by going against the grain of an authentic human mating experience. I can't imagine anything good coming out of the self-commodification and self-objectification that apps push us towards, even as someone who has more than extensive experience playing that game.
Right, and then you get married to them, and then after years of constant fighting, you get divorced because you just weren't compatible in the first place, and those fundamental problems never went away despite all the feel-good emotions you had.
I'd love to see statistics showing how longitudinal life satisfaction compares between societies where marriages are arranged and where there is total freedom of marriage partner choice.
I know that some of these apps allow for minimum height requirements. People don't like it went you suggest apps add width requirements in response.
Even if it's not explicitly a metric on the app, many people will say they have a min. height req. in their profile.
> income / salary / net worth / debt
I also seem to remember okcupid having some kind of education requirement, or heavily emphasized education.
I suppose it’s a reflection of which side of the marketplace is much harder to retain.