Today, he was explaining that two of his friends are arguing a lot because they can’t agree on rules to a game. He’s trying to stay friends with both of them, and has figured out that getting involved in the argument makes this harder.
These are the essential lessons home-schooled kids typically miss.
If anything, I learned how to appease people to fit in and make them like me at school.
It wasn't until the last 2-3 years (I'm in my thirties now) after on a startup for the past 7 years that I started to better understand, explore and comprehend my personal psychology.
It was until these last couple years that I learned that it’s not job to fix problems between people and that often it just makes things worse.
In our thirties (all humans) learn to apply that abstract thinking to ourselves. In our forties, our heart finally stops growing and we become a full adult.
Never discount your past, no matter how terrible and/or great it was. It’s part of who you are, part of what makes you, you. Embrace it, learn from it, and look forward. Yes, that is easier said than done.
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What does that even mean in practical terms?
None of this is written in stone. Biology and human behavior are way to nuanced for that, but as a group, those of the male persuasion develop those skills at a later age, again, probably for species survival reasons.
Let me Google that for you:
https://www.nature.com/articles/s41386-021-01137-9
https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1460-9568.2006...
For the first source, literally in the second sentence:
> Although neurons of the PFC are generated before birth, the differentiation of its neurons and development of synaptic connections in humans extend to the 3rd decade of life.
Yes, that's how 'well known' this fact is, that it literally doesn't need a citation or even a defense ... fwiw, the first source in a broad overview of all the literature in the _difference_ between rats/humans/primates on the differences between the development of PFC (which controls 'abstract' thought).
The second compares sexes across the entire lifetime, not just in elderly. This is all so obviously well-known that you're unlikely to find a study about it, you live this well into your 40's and literally see the effects of it all around you.
I’ll leave you with the knowledge that I’m a medical professional and none of what you wrote is true or widely believed in any way.
See this paper, which was written after yours, reviewing dozens of other papers, with a sample size of 1100 instead of 70: https://ftp.nmr.mgh.harvard.edu/pub/articles/2009/2009_-_Fje...
Last sentence of abstract: no significant differences between the sexes.
In the introduction: points out that this is a controversial topic.
TBH just from your dogmatic and insulting tone it was clear that you’re just trying to give your opinions false justification and aren’t interested in finding the truth at all.
You were very rudely asking for sources to something widely accepted since the middle ages... so... how were you expecting me to reply, exactly? I love discussing this sort of stuff, so, if we can be civil, let's discuss it!
> See this paper, which was written after yours, reviewing dozens of other papers, with a sample size of 1100 instead of 70
I'll give the paper you linked a more thorough read later on. From a cursory scan, I didn't see anything about the prefrontal cortex in the entire paper, and from what I can tell, wasn't measured. No one is saying that the brain sizes of men/women differ, only that the PFC isn't fully mature in men until later than it is for women. I don't think an MRI would show this feature, but I could be wrong (maybe myelination might be some sort of indicator?)
Like I said, I doubt there's a study specifically about this, but I could totally be wrong. I might have to call some of my neurology friends and ask weird questions lol. If you're in the medical world, you could ask too. Maybe we might both learn something new.
Very possible to learn how to navigate this kind of stuff without being in those environments, but you get a lot less exposure.