Is there not a middle ground here? I don't think this is a binary situation where a person has to have no care at all, or it is their full obsession with life.

Like, I don't care if you think my clothes are shit, and I don't keep up with the latest javascript flavor of the day. At the same time I don't want, at least the general public around me, thinking I'm some creepy hermit murderer so they don't rise up with torches and pitchforks either.