> Who people think we are is who we are
May be true for extroverts, but as an introvert I don't give a cent about what random people think about me (which also explains why I do not use Instagram in the first place).
May be true for extroverts, but as an introvert I don't give a cent about what random people think about me (which also explains why I do not use Instagram in the first place).
There are many introverts who manage their social time specifically because they care about the impressions they make on others and find it effortful to manage them; and many extroverts who do the opposite specifically because they don’t think at all about such impressions.
Notice how the top level example didn't start with randos, but family members and close associates.
But you did post about it.
It seems to me that people who truly do not care would just not engage in the first place?
That seems rather reductive given the topic here.
I don't own an EV auto, or any auto for that matter. By your logic, I shouldn't engage in discussions about EV vs. ICE or anything to do with transportation. Is that correct?
A fair point. However, that's not what GGP[1] said. They said:
> Who people think we are is who we are
May be true for extroverts, but as an introvert I don't give a cent about
what random people think about me (which also explains why I do not use
Instagram in the first place).
However there is a certain kind of dissonance between deciding to publicly
state "I don't care what you think" that sort of implies that they do care
actually.
It seems to me that people who truly do not care would just not engage in the
first place?
It seems reasonable to comment on the perceived "quest for likes" in a discussion about such things, even if you don't use those platforms and/or don't care what others think.
I don't agree with GGP's point about being an introvert, as I'm an extrovert and I don't give a rat's ass about such things either. Nor do I use Instagram or other (mainstream) social media.
Despite my (potentially) poor analogy, GP seems to be implying that if you state that you don't care about something, then you actually do care. Which, as I said, seems pretty reductive. And is also a poor use of logic.
Please feel free to disagree and/or down-vote me, as I (at least as far as this, and most topics goes) don't really care what others think.
Rather, I'm interested in discussion that sparks interesting exchanges. GP's shallow dismissal of GGP doesn't do that. In fact, it may well stifle discussion. And more's the pity.
[0] https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=35074290
[1] https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=35072080
Edit: fixed formatting and prose. Clarified my response.
Like, I don't care if you think my clothes are shit, and I don't keep up with the latest javascript flavor of the day. At the same time I don't want, at least the general public around me, thinking I'm some creepy hermit murderer so they don't rise up with torches and pitchforks either.
Edit: I find that most people who scream “I don’t care what you think” generally mean “I’m not influenced by what you think”. Which is an important difference, and helps explain getting red in the face about someone else’s opinion about which one don’t care.