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> Usually people choose to stay in abusive situations because they don’t believe they’re being abused

I simply asked OP to list the abuses they think the engineers are unaware of.

> OP isn’t saying they’re being abused as a fact,

OP literally said "It would feel amazing after this much abuse"

My bad, I meant OP in regards to whom you directly responded to (emphasis mine)

> they will _probably realize_ years later that they were abused.

Yes that's the same person I quoted, "papito".

Their "probably" was about them probably realizing, not probably being abused.

OP was absolute in their accusation of abuse in his above post that I quoted.

That's why I asked them for specific examples.