> That only comes from understanding that my case of ADHD is a disability. I didn't do that before when I thought I was just lazy. Ugh.

Yeah, I had to recontextualise a lot of my life after getting my diagnosis, there's a real trick in not over- or under-blaming things on the condition, although I'm not sure if that would be as big a job if you already had lived with one condition - going by what you've said matching a close friend of mine who's also autistic and got an ADHD diagnosis a lot later in life.

Anyway, I can't say if methylphenidate would work better for you but it should help with the things you listed, in my very subjective opinion. Good luck with things :)