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> Not a comfortable thing to say, but this is one reason I’m glad my kid is a daughter and not a son

I am missing something here... why? If the rate of single men in the US looking for a date has dropped, wouldn't a similar number (assuming majority straight relationships and monogamous pairings) of women be also single?

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It means that young women are increasingly able to exercise their preference for dating high status men, who are on average older.

Currently that subset is dating the same men, while thinking they are monogamous

The older men they are dating are not only dating younger women, or just one younger woman

I can see that continuing

No, men aren’t looking for dates cause online dating has made it really brutal for them and allowed women to be more choosy

It’s not by choice

Nah, it's by choice for many of us. I have no problem getting sex or charming women, and throughout my 20s had a bunch of fun with many women. I just don't care to do it anymore. I would rather spend my time learning and building than socializing, stressing, and dressing. Mostly I put this down to getting older, but a big part is just coming to terms with myself and how that differs from societal expectations. I've become comfortable in my own skin, so no longer seek validation of my manhood through sex and friends and money.

There are always exceptions to the rule

> No, men aren’t looking for dates cause online dating has made it really brutal for them and allowed women to be more choosy

Isn't the result the same? More people are single? Or are we saying that more men have polyamorous relationships?

> Or are we saying that more men have polyamorous relationships?

Seems to be this one.

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