The current iteration is optimized around not having it be a source of stress or anxiety for me. Here is my setup:
* I just use self-hosted Wordpress site on a Digital Ocean droplet.
* I made my own theme that strips pretty much everything out: it's one big page with 500+ posts on it, all text. No comments, images, video, anything like that. Minimal markup. Takes less than a second before the page can be interacted with.
* There are no post pages, and no archives (again, just one big page).
* Consequently, you search by pressing cmd-f in your browser, which is so much better than a search widget (and is the main reason I went with this design).
* I make entries whenever I want to, and then queue them up with a plugin that releases 1 post every 4 days, on a schedule. I have 112 posts in the queue, so I could not touch this thing for a year and it would be still running.
* My main goal for the blog is to record things that have happened: diary, commonplace book, repository for movie and book reviews. Not to make money or be a famous thought leader and influencer. I recognize that's not everybody's goal, but with those simplifying assumptions in place, it became super easy to make and maintain a blog.