Wowie. Maybe just maybe folks have bigger issues than "my identity as a man is dependent on having a job". But again, I have existed in queer and 30-yr-and-below spaces for so long that this is just absurd to me. Even the straight friends I have would openly scoff at this.

If the response to this is "well I better embrace my identity as a man who only has worth via a job and deserving of love in exchange for money"... then yeah, /r/arethestraightsokay ?

Sometimes I just wish I could instill a sense of "this is YOUR life, your ONLY life" for others the way I've embraced in my late-20s. So many people barreling faster and faster ahead to avoid any examination of their actual relationship to happiness. And then the masses to give excuses for why an unexamined life is unavoidable (lest they consider their own).