... yes, of course I have been. I have not lived in a magical fairy land for the last few years. From that you can go "oh, maybe the issues I personally have communicating online don't apply to everyone else" rather than saying that I have no experience with what I'm talking about.
> IRL communication that takes seconds to minutes takes 30-40 minutes over a video call.
That sounds like you have communication issues, not technical ones. If it's something that's going to take just a couple of seconds, why are you having a meeting about it? Why are you not just using irc/slack? It _sounds_ like you're saying that you want to return to the office because if everyone is in the office you can just interrupt other people whenever you have a question - which is one of the single most annoying things about being in the office.