"Aligned" is a term of art. It refers to the idea that a system with agency or causal autonomy will act in our interests. It doesn't imply any sense of personhood/selfhood/consciousness.
If you think that Bing is equally autonomous as a stapler, then I think you're making a very big mistake, the sort of mistake that in our lifetime could plausible kill millions of people (that's not hyperbole, I mean that literally, indeed full extinction of humanity is a plausible outcome too). A stapler is understood mechanistically, it's trivially transparent what's going on when you use one, and the only way harm can result is if you do something stupid with it. You cannot for a second defend the proposition that a LLM is equally transparent, or that harm will only arise if an LLM is "used wrong".
I think you're getting hung up on an imagined/misunderstood claim that the alignment frame requires us to grant personhood or consciousness to these systems. I think that's completely wrong, and a distraction. You could usefully apply the "alignment" paradigm to viruses and bacteria; the gut microbiome is usually "aligned" in that it's healthy and beneficial to humans, and Covid-19 is "anti-aligned", in that it kills people and prevents us from doing what we want.
If ChatGPT 2.0 gains the ability to take actions on the internet, and the action <harm person X> is the completion it generates for a given input, then the resulting harm is what I mean when I talk about harms from "un-aligned" systems.