We, made that by abandoning generational homes. It's artificial.
What I have understood of western culture is that independence has a very high value. Even when parents/grand parents are old and weak, they still want to stay independent or let their children remain independent. And children probably think that its best for old and weak parents/grand parents to get better care in dedicated places.
Where I am from, they would prefer being with their kids at that stage rather than being sent somewhere away from everyone they knew. There are care homes for people, but generally for different reasons (abandonment because of poverty or other domestic issues as I remember seeing an interview).
It's pretty common to see the older generation torpedo the relationship with their adult children by basically just abandoning them to work out the early stages of adulthood and marriage on their own.
Then, 20 years later when they're lonely and riddled with health problems, they come crawling back and wonder why their children don't want anything to do with them.
In the East, parents sacrifice pretty much everything for their kids. They watch over them and will do anything i.e selling their homes/draining retirement accounts or working extra hard so the kids can go to really good schools, have downpayment for their first homes etc. Here what is valued is community.
But as the society keeps evolving things are changing in the East as well. We are slowly becoming westernized as well.
There is nothing wrong with either approach. It depends on which culture you are born and brought up in.
It’s like a switch flips. You’re independent now so magically you can handle all that entails.
Don’t ask me, figure it out yourself.
But what you are saying here is that kicking out actually happens. If kids don't move out, the parents will force them to. Are kids raised as a fixed 18 year job? That's weird if true.
I guess my point was that the big 20+ year break in responsibility, which is initiated by the parents, will turn around and bite them in the arse when they themselves become dependent on their children.
In the old days we just let them wander off or wallow in bed until they died.
There is very little quality of life and very little sense in being alive in a hospice, surrounded by strangers, hooked up to machines, living a lonely existence.
I hope for significant automation (robots) in future so he family members can spend there time on the good stuff: actually being with the parent.
When my mother in law died (at 60, cancer) she died in the same room she’d been born in. The German social services (e.g. Diakonie) provided enough support that her daughters had minimal bedpan-changing and maximal social interactions with their mum, at least until she was too far gone.
There is. I thing like that with the inhumane system in the USA.