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Could it be a cultural thing? I’m American and I’ve always lived in major coastal cities.
Possibly—I’m from a Muslim country. I’ve seen my dad cry twice, once when our dog died and once when his mom died. He had a good relationship with his own dad but didn’t cry when he died. My mom would probably freak out if he expressed more weakness than that.
But to my point, Americans in major coastal cities are a minority in terms of culture. And I assume you are white. Even in major coastal cities, non-whites typically have more traditional expectations about male behavior.
They’re your exes… how can you be so confident that it was positive for the relationship?
Even just the category itself kind of makes the point. The original claim way upthread was that women find guys who cry repulsive. I would assume this is roughly referring to guys crying when they run into a problem in life instead of dealing with it, that sort of thing. The examples in your link are, like, guys who gave their whole lives to a sport, everything's on the line, maximum skin in the game, and their crying is a show of strength, the raw emotion of someone at a peak/climactic moment.
It would falsify this if you found examples of our culture supporting guys just going through their daily lives and crying as an accessible reaction to random things that make them feel bad, almost as a sort of banality. (I think this is the bar, since culturally we're okay with women doing this.)
> Boys don't cry. It doesn't matter the circumstances; shedding any tears is the ultimate no-no in terms of what you can and can't do as a man. But sometimes... sometimes... sometimes there comes a time when a man's emotions deny any other form of expression, and they pour forth—prerequisite impassioned speech may or may not be present—by cascading down his cheeks. And crying does NOT make him any less badass in the eyes of the audience, but in fact may even reinforce this status. In other words, Manly Man-Tears Of Manliness.
...supports rayiner's point. Men aren't generally allowed to cry; when they are it's for exceptional circumstances, when the beauty of life so overflows one's cup that it becomes an expression of peak experience, or something like that. But the subtext is that everyday crying is taboo.
This seems ridiculous to me, but not impossible. Maybe women are different outside Europe and South America. What do I know how things work where you are.