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> Talking to people is an underrated technique to stop worrying

For me this is really true. I'm more of an introvert, and I don't usually reach out to others very often. It can be in the form of talk therapy in a formal setting with an actual psychologist. It can also just be catching up with a friend, or chatting with a neighbor about something totally unrelated. Anything that can get me outside of my own mind helps. Looking for opportunities to help or become involved in someone else's life is really helpful.

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I am an introvert myself and practiced a new habit of calling one person each day in the lockdown.

Has helped me in forming deep friendships, make new friends, and overcoming my shyness.

Recommend 10/10

Here is a short essay I wrote recently. Will probably write a blog post soon too.

https://twitter.com/prashanttgs/status/1616815440667480071

As a fellow introvert, this sounds insurmountably painful. How did you have something to talk about every night? How did you even find that many people to fit into a rotation like that without feeling like you were annoying them? I have so many questions. If you do write that blog post, I'd love to read it. Especially the "how."

I think it's common to go through life thinking that the absolute worse thing you can be is annoying.

You can fear being annoying to the point of becoming mute.

If life looks very small, consider becoming slightly more annoying.

Introversion and social anxiety are two different things. I securities about how people see you are third. The original person was introvert.

People talk every day with their spouses and kids. They talk everyday with their collegues or schoolmates. They talk every day with peer group in hobby or sport if they have involved one.

My point here is not that you have to do it or everyone have to do it. But the more you are with people who communicate, the easier it is to find topics. Because it is skill learned by observation and by practicing.

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